Self-esteem is the ability we have to like ourselves, to feel good, happy and confident even when nothing is right around us because we know our value.
But this self-esteem may be lessened by the end of a relationship, after a discussion, and especially during a depression. So here are some practical steps you can take to increase your self-esteem:
1. Always have a motivational phrase close by
You can write a stimulating phrase like ‘I want, I can, and I can.’ or ‘God helps those who get up early.’, and paste it in the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator door, or the computer, for example. Reading this type of sentence out loud is a good way to hear your own voice, finding the encouragement you need to move forward.
2. Create a bucket of affirmation words
A good tip to increase self-esteem is to write down in pieces of paper your qualities and life goals, especially those that have already been achieved. You can write down things like:
- I am happy that I am not alone;
- I can draw very well;
- I am a dedicated and hardworking person;
- I have already learned to read and write, I can do much more;
- I can cook something;
- I like my nails, hair color or eyes, for example.
Put these small pieces of paper inside a jar and read one of these whenever you feel sad and downcast. Inside this bottle can also be phrases that can stimulate you to move forward, photos of good times and your personal victories.
3. Do activities you enjoy
Doing activities such as going to the gym, learning to dance, singing or playing a musical instrument, increase safety and provide socializing, is a good excuse to leave the house, get dressed better and feel good about yourself.
4. Adopt the superman’s posture
There’s one very important thing that everyone should do before heading into a job interview, giving a big speech or attempting an athletic feat. According to Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist at Harvard Business School, everyone should spend two minutes power posing. What, you ask, is power posing? It is adopting the stances associated with confidence, power, and achievement — chest lifted, head held high, arms either up or propped on the hips.
5. Caring for health
Eating well, eating healthy foods, and doing some kind of physical activity is also a good way to learn to enjoy yourself and what you see in the mirror. Prefer fruit rather than candy and bread instead of stuffed biscuits. Exchange fried foods for something more nutritious, before long you should start to feel better and more disposed.
6. Make peace with the mirror
Whenever you look in the mirror, focus your attention on its positive features, without wasting time on the negative aspects of your image. If you’re really not satisfied with what you see in the mirror when you wake up, you can say ‘I can do better’ and then take a shower and get dressed, go back to the mirror and say ‘I knew, I could, I’m much better now.’
7. Wear your favorite clothes
When you need to leave the house and you are not very happy with your image, wear the clothes that make you feel really good. This can benefit your self-esteem because the outward appearance is capable of changing our interior.
In addition, we must learn to smile, even from ourselves. Because good humor takes the weight off our shoulders and makes us move forward with strength, courage, and faith. Doing something good for another person or society also helps to improve self-esteem because we can feel valued and important. There are several ways to help the other, whether it be helping to cross the street or volunteering in some cause.
By following this type of strategy daily, one should feel better each day. And each time it should be easier to put each of these attitudes into practice.
Test your self-esteem through the following self-esteem scale: